We all know the bridal verse about what a bride should carry to her wedding:
“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”
It’s easy for your mom or another relative to offer you something old for your wedding day. And any bride’s favorite new thing is her dress. But what about your “something borrowed”?
The verse’s tradition is best honored by borrowing something from a happily married relative or friend. Ideally, it should be something that the lender wore at her own wedding.
You can start by thinking what you’d like to borrow. Then consider who you’d like to include as you participate in this tradition. Then, carefully consider when will be the best time and place to approach the potential lender about the item in question.
Make sure to use the word “borrow” to let them know that you are asking them to participate in this sweetly sentimental custom, as well as the fact that you’ll give the item back after the big day.
Still no ideas? Consider the possibility of accessorizing.
Perhaps one of your relatives has a special piece of jewelry that you’ve always admired. It never hurts to inquire whether she’d lend it to you for the day. “Can I borrow those pearl earrings?” Or “would you mind if I borrowed your veil?”
No appropriately accessorized relatives? Cast your net a little wider. Does your best friend have an adorable little bag? What about an elegant wrap from your future mother-in-law? If you want to step across the gender divide, your grandfather might have a handkerchief, Bible or book of poetry to lend.
Or think really big about “borrowing” the home of your parents (or his?) to host the wedding or reception.
Whatever you borrow, make sure that you give it back with a suitable thank you memento before the end of the reception. You don’t want to take the chance of losing it or trying to keep track of what you borrowed while you and your new spouse are jetting off to start your new life together.